It's Not Working
We have all been there before:
Bought a program, signed up of a training, a gym membership, hired a coach, started a diet and said:
It's not working or This isn't for me.
We get "shinning object" syndrome, looking everywhere else for the answers, besides the place we had already committed.
We blame the trainer, the program, our parents, the town we live in, genetics, politics, the alcohol industry, social media, our broken brain and not being "normal".
We spin in confusion and overwhelm instead of asking what is working?
AND...Where AM I NOT WORKING?
I have been there.
I have fired a coach (yes, it's hard for me to say this).
Quit programs.
Actually, I have quit A LOT.
Blamed someones "personality" just doesn't work with mine.
Start criticizing their approach.
Literally LOOKING for things to support and validate my thought that it's not working.
Only in the end realizing the resistance to change and discomfort of not getting the results I wanted easily enough, was ALL ON ME.
Results TAKE TIME.
I CREATE the real VALUE of the program, relationship or job.
The space was created, the container held, the only thing that changed were MY THOUGHTS.
When things got hard and a intense, I was looking for an easy out.
NONE OF THE CIRCUMSTANCES MATTERS.
Taking a long hard look at the truth of who you are is scary and humbling.
But knowing the changes you wish to see lie in your hands,
is the most empowering place, ever.
We do this in jobs and relationships too.
Where can YOU show up differently today that will serve you in the best way possible?
Where can you shift your perspective to be in alignment with the Emotions, thoughts and actions you need to make the most out of where you are at?
Where can you DROP YOUR EGO at the door?
I have told people during consultations to RECOMMIT to the program they were already in.
That the same thing will happen in our coaching if they don't nip it in the bud now.
From a place of great SERVICE, I can see that is their problem, rather than selling them a new ACTION, I help them see their mind is all they need to change.
Where isn't it "working" in your life?
Where have you said, "I have tried everything"?
What results do you want that you are blaming someone else for?
Where had it got challenging and your are spiraling in overwhelm and confusion?
Looking for things to be "wrong" or complain about?
The highest honor you can give yourself is to take back your power and take responsibility for yourself from a place of compassion and curiosity.
ANY program will work if YOU work it.
There are ALWAYS more ways to try.
Want to find the love of your life?
Are you willing to go on 1,000 dates?
Want to fix your marriage?
Are you willing to drop your expectations of how someone else "should' behave"?
Want to have a new relationship to alcohol?
Are you willing to unlearn the habit with brutal honesty that alcohol has been woven into the very fabric of your life and it needs to be deconstructed to learn a new way?
This is the work my friends.
Recommit and DON'T STOP until you get the results you came for.
Your future self will thank you for it.
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