How To Stop Caring What Other People Think
What other people think about your relationship to alcohol, is OPP, Other Peoples Problems.
It is one of THE BIGGEST mistakes people make when trying to quit drinking:
Caring what other people will think.
Trying to read people's minds:
They'll support me.
Will think they have a "problem"?
Will I be left out or strange.
Do I need to lie?
What will I say if they ask?
Your brain is what makes it awkward.
What other people think about your drinking is not your problem.
Only if you decide it is.
You are a grown Woman and no one can make your decisions for you.
Everyone will have a different thought and a different emotion about you and your drinking.
I'm sorry to break it to you, but most people will care very little.
They will be focused on where their next drink is coming from.
You can talk about this choice as much or as little as you want.
It's none of anyones business but yours.
Your brain wants to seek validation for this change because of outdated survival instincts.
We no longer need the group to approve our decisions are okay for our survival.
When you eat a taco, you don't care if the world hates taco's, you are ALL IN and no one is stopping you.
When you choose not to eat meat, stop watching TV, turn off your cell phone, drive a Hummer, an electric car, pray or vote, you don't care what other people think, because it's important to you.
When you are ALL IN, with your own BELIEFS about why drinking isn't for you anymore, there will be no reason to seek validation for your choices.
Other peoples fears, conditioning, problems, judgement are about themselves.
The way they respond to you is based on their lives up to that point and very little to do with you personally.
This goes for EVERYTHING.
You have to make your decisions for the results you want.
When you respect your decisions, other people will too.
If they don't, maybe it's time to clean house.
Changing your relationship to alcohol is a clear way to find out what relationship are here for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
You'll have clarity of your REAL preferences.
Even if they never say it, they will respect you more for it when you come from a place of integrity.
Trust me on this one.
PS: Don't miss my 5 part series on the 5 biggest mistakes that make quitting drinking impossible.
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