Holistic Health & Wellness Private Coaching
Here’s the truth: it’s not about rules, routines, or doing more.
It’s not about starting over or trying to get it “right” this time.
Coaching is simply support that helps you create what you’re actually looking for — steady energy, clarity, consistency — without forcing it or burning out.
Nothing about you is broken.
You just haven’t found the approach that makes it
simple, sustainable, and meets you where you are, mind, body, heart, and soul.
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“Alcohol was something I really wanted to get out of my life. I knew I needed to work with her (Mary) to achieve what I wanted to…Mary’s coaching has improved every aspect of my life and I am so grateful for working with her.” - Amanda
Why staying consistent Feels Like the One Thing You Can’t Figure Out
You’re a woman who gets things done.
You know how to find success — that part has always come naturally to you.
You manage people, schedules, kids, homes, businesses.
You show up, you lead, you follow through.
You’ve built a beautiful life because you know how to be consistent.
But Wellness Routine?
It’s the one thing you can’t seem to figure out.
And that feels confusing for a high-achieving woman who’s capable of so much.
Not because you’re weak.
Not because you lack discipline.
Not because you “have a problem.”
It’s because your mind and nervous system learned a pattern —
a pattern that makes alcohol feel like the fastest way to get relief, calm, or confidence.
That’s it.
A pattern.
And patterns can be rewired.
Until now, your options have felt limited:
Quit on yourself and deal with the fallout,
stay the course and feel deprived
or stay stuck in a cycle that no longer fits the woman you’ve become
You’re not the problem — your brain’s pattern is.
And no one has ever taught you a simple, sustainable way to change it.
That’s where feminine, mindful motivation coaching comes in.
It’s a holistic, sustainable approach that helps you shift the pattern — without rules, labels, or counting days.
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“When this mindset shift happened, I knew it would be easy to release alcohol completely from my life”
“I knew changing my relationship to alcohol was on the horizon when I heard Mary talk about how alcohol became irrelevant to her, like it was possible for alcohol to be something neutral that was easy to say no to.
Among the many tools that Mary offered in my time with her, I received the most support from the continual reminder that I am not a victim to my thoughts, and that most often the worst thing that can happen is a painful emotion or a negative thought.
When this mindset shift happened, I knew it would be easy to release alcohol completely from my life, because I am fully willing to feel my feelings, and not let my thoughts and subconscious patterns get the best of me.”
-Nura Rachelle Astrologer, mother, Teacher
The Real Problem Isn’t Your Lack of Willpower — It’s What You’ve Been Taught to Believe About Wellness
The biggest roadblock to change usually isn’t motivation.
It’s believing you have to “fix yourself” before your life can get better.
You’ve been taught that stress, exhaustion, overwhelm, emotional eating, overdrinking, burnout, anxiety, overworking, and constantly pushing through are just part of modern life.
Especially as a woman.
So you keep trying to manage the symptoms while staying functional.
Another routine.
Another supplement.
Another healing modality.
Another attempt to finally “get it together.”
But constantly living disconnected from your body, your truth, your values, and your deeper purpose is not wellness.
And coping patterns don’t disappear just because we judge them or try harder.
What you really want isn’t more discipline.
You want peace.
Clarity.
Energy.
Connection.
Freedom from constantly managing themselves.
That’s not a character flaw.
It’s a pattern.
And patterns can change when we feel safe enough to tell the truth, reconnect to what matters, and create sustainable behavioral change from the inside out.
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“If anyone had told me 6 months ago that I would be alcohol free I would have laughed.”
"Liquor became my source of confidence, pleasure, reward and solace, and everything I did had to include alcohol in order to be fun or even tolerable. The pattern continued for the next 44 years.
Mary’s commentary resonated deeply with my own alcohol experiences and I decided to explore her 5 shifts. I tapped into “the witness” and was surprised how affective a tool it was.
Once I stopped judging myself I was able to more clearly understand the reasons I drank and that the reasons were exacerbated by the very act of drinking. A vicious cycle! My energy and enthusiasm grows daily and I have no feelings of deprivation or loss. I’ve started to exercise, meditate and make plans for an awesome future.
I owe my success to Mary Wagstaff and would recommend her program to women of any age or circumstance.”
- Laura Neal, Property Manager, Mother, Adventurer
Laura is going on 3 years of loving her naturally sober life! Getting ready to hit the road in her retirement adventure.
The Process That Actually Creates Sustainable Change
(Not Another Quick Fix)
This is the process I’ve used in my own life and with hundreds of women to create lasting behavioral change.
Not through shame.
Not through perfection.
Not through white-knuckling.
But through presence, truth, nervous system safety, meaningful accountability, and learning how to reconnect to what actually matters.
Because sustainable wellness isn’t built on punishment or constant self-improvement.
It’s built on self-awareness, devotion, and the creation of habits that support the life you truly want to live.
It’s not traditional wellness coaching.
Traditional health approaches often rely on rigid routines, constant self-optimization, surface-level habits, or the idea of “fix” yourself through more discipline, SMART goals, and actions that require unending willpower.
Devotional Wellness is different.
It’s not about restriction — it’s about reclamation.
Instead of trying to avoid life, you learn how to:
Feel your emotions fully
Regulate your nervous system
Honor your desires without numbing them
Shift your internal state without connection, not checking out
Build emotional safety inside your body
Rewire your brain’s attachment to alcohol
Create calm, clarity, and confidence from within
This is a holistic, compassionate method that makes change meaningful.
When you create peace inside your nervous system, old habits lose their pull — naturally.
No rules.
No labels.
No counting days.
No deprivation.
Just a simple, sustainable way of living that fits who you are.
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"I feel an inner soundness and feeling of being solid in my responses that wasn’t there prior to working with you. True healing”
And I am so grateful to you and the program and the opportunities and shifts of perspective that have opened up for me. I appreciate knowing you are still here for me…
I feel I have solid internal footing, which is an absolute testament to the work I’ve done these last few months with you and the program. True healing. "
-Bonnie Zadeyan, Mother of Four, Entrepreneur, Yoga practitioner
Your Private Coaching Experience
Private coaching with me is not behavior management.
It’s a transformational, feminine, Spirit-based journey back to yourself.
It celebrates your story, your wisdom, your evolution, and god.
Together, we unlock the woman you’ve always known yourself to be — awake, powerful, connected, intuitive, free.
This is for the woman who is over it:
over the mental load
over the guilt
over feeling numb
over bursts of creativity that never fully land
over performing
Over-consuming does not match the woman she is becoming
She’s ready for her next chapter.
She’s ready to make an impact in her home, career, and community.
She’s ready for a deeper relationship with herself and with the Divine.
After coaching hundreds of women — and walking this path myself — I know what actually creates long-term change:
A regulated nervous system.
A clear, simple method.
A supportive relationship.
A deep sense of Devotion and Meaning.
And a woman who is ready.
How Devotional Wellness Coaching Guarantees Results
Most approaches fail because they expect you to change without honoring the part of you that’s trying to stay the same.
That’s why diets, doing another reset, or a challenge never stick. You’re trying to force new behavior on top of a nervous system and mindset that’s not in alignment with a new lifestyle, yet.
Devotional Wellness Coaching works because it does the opposite.
We stop trying to control Behavioral changes… and start with the vision of your well-lived life.
When your heart is on board, and your values are accounted for, everything else becomes simple and sustainable.
Here’s why my process guarantees results when you show up for it:
1. You Learn the Skills That Make Lifestyle Wellness Simple + Sustainable
You’ve never been taught how to feel your feelings, regulate your nervous system, or shift your inner state.
Once you learn these skills, you’re no longer trying to “be good” — you’re simply responding to life differently.
That’s why your results become inevitable.
2. We Rewire the Pattern, Not Just the Behavior
Most programs focus on goals and action.
I focus on eliminating the desire for behaviors that no longer align with your wellness lifestyle.
When urges dissolve, you stop needing willpower — and the change becomes permanent.
3. You Build Emotional Safety Inside Your Body
Women don’t overconsume, check out, or lose motivation because we’re weak — we get stuck because our nervous systems are overloaded.
When we create calm from the inside out, old habits lose their power.
4. You Get Support That Keeps You Consistent
You’re already a woman who knows how to show up.
But your brain has been running the same coping pattern for years.
Having a coach who reflects your blind spots, your brilliance, and your commitment back to you is the difference between “trying again” and actually changing.
5. The Process Meets You Where You Are
You don’t need to change anything to start.
You don’t need rules or labels.
You don’t need to be perfect.
You simply need to be ready for a new approach.
When you combine your readiness with a method that matches how women actually learn, live, and change, results are guaranteed.
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“Mary helped me look at alcohol deeper than just the facts of am I drinking or not drinking, but how do I feel and what are my goals.”
“It's really about being curious with no judgment. I'm having a drink, so I'm going to have a drink; it's not good or bad, and if I wake up tomorrow with a hangover, I'm not going to feel guilty about it; I'm just going to experience it.
It's about thinking things through and not just having feelings. You gave me the opportunity to think more deeply beyond surface emotions and feelings.
What I really want is to make big moves, and you can't make big moves when you're swimming under a cloud of alcohol.”
- Kaylyn Dawley, Business Strategist, Entrepreneur
What You Get Inside Private Coaching
Private coaching with me is intimate, intentional, and life-changing.
This isn’t about micromanaging your drinking — this is about supporting you as you become the calm, clear, confident woman you already know you’re meant to be.
Here’s what you’ll get inside your coaching experience:
1. A Personalized, Feminine Sobriety Framework
You’ll learn the exact, simple, sustainable tools that help you shift your desire for alcohol — not just resist it.This is tailored to your nervous system, your lifestyle, and the woman you’re becoming.No rules. No labels. No deprivation.
2. Weekly 1:1 Sessions That Create Breakthroughs
This is where everything comes together.
Each session helps you clear overwhelm, understand your patterns, and create clarity around the next right step.
You’ll feel grounded, supported, and more like yourself every single week.
3. High-Touch, Wrap-Around Support Between Sessions
You don’t change your relationship with alcohol in one weekly appointment.
You change it with support that wraps around your real life, especially in the moments your brain wants to fall back into old patterns.
You’re not left alone.
You have a steady bridge of support — “in-the-moment” guidance that helps you:
regulate quickly
interrupt emotional spirals
calm your nervous system
navigate tough moments
stay consistent
build confidence with every step
This is the level of support that keeps your momentum alive and your progress sustainable.
4. Tools to Navigate All Areas of Your Life
Alcohol is just one spoke on the wheel of your life.
When the other spokes — your emotional world, nervous system, boundaries, routines, identity, relationships, and self-trust — get stronger…
you stop needing alcohol for support.
You’ll learn tools that help you:
process emotions instead of avoiding them
reduce overwhelm
create structure that feels nourishing
strengthen boundaries
improve your relationships
regulate your nervous system
navigate stress without spiraling
When the rest of your life rises, alcohol naturally becomes less relevant, less needed, and eventually… not wanted.
⭐ 5. And Most Importantly: You Learn the Skill of Consistency
(the part most programs never teach you — and the part that guarantees your results)
Most women don’t struggle because they lack discipline.
They struggle because no one taught them how to consistently show up for themselves.
Inside this coaching, you’ll learn:
accountability without shame
emotional responsibility instead of avoidance
how to keep your word to yourself
how to show up even on messy days
how to build trust with your future self
how to get what you came for
how to make every investment a win
Mindset isn’t innate.
Consistency wasn’t modeled.
But when you learn this skill — your transformation becomes inevitable.
This is the part of sobriety coaching no one talks about —
and the exact reason my clients succeed when nothing else has worked.
“My journey to change my relationship with alcohol has restyled my entire life.”
I began the journey only knowing how to be a daily drinker. I felt that at best, I could maybe moderate.
Mary provided me with the fundamental realization that I did not have to settle. That I no longer needed to wander, but could build a more direct purposeful path to follow.
From that moment on, Mary guided me in rethinking what I naively believed was unimaginable for so many years. A life independent of alcohol is not only viable, it is a choice I now have the confidence to make every day.
To have the awareness that the social pull of a worldwide drinking culture is not welcome in my life. And, knowing that Mary is always here for me is priceless. -Paula, Program Client
“Mary's work is life-changing. Before working with Mary, I was tired, depressed and uninspired in life. After Mary, my beliefs have changed.”
I enjoy life and am excited for each day. I truly NEVER thought I would be writing this and not having a drink. Somehow, Mary creates a path for you without "clawing" your way through each day without a drink. This has been the best gift to me and my family.
My Beliefs before Mary:
I can't NOT drink.
I love drinking while making dinner.
I won't have fun at parties without drinking.
I want to drink after work.
“Mary not only helped me wrap my head around thinking differently about alcohol, which I thought was impossible but also life in general.”
Mary stuck by me when I doubted myself, when I stumbled, and all the way through to now where I can honestly say I feel the BEST I have felt in years. Mary not only helped me wrap my head around thinking differently about alcohol, which I thought was impossible but also life in general. The pandemic escalated my workload, my stress, and my drinking. Mary helped me begin to unpack all three, and I will be forever grateful. XO - Nicole, Program Client
My Beliefs After working with Mary:
I have so much energy.
I am so calm.
I love myself and my life.
I can handle anything.
I laugh more without alcohol.
-Ami, Program Client
Working with Mary has been a transformative experience—a true game and life changer.
In every conversation with her, I feel completely safe to express myself without shame. Her insightful words not only help me see my challenges from a new perspective, but they also empower me to grow and overcome negative self-talk. The trust and authenticity in our exchanges have made every interaction deeply impactful, showing me the power of honest connection and self-discovery.
- Marianne, Private Coaching Client
Frequently Asked Questions
Do I need to stop drinking before I start coaching?
No. You don’t need to “be good,” take a break, or white-knuckle anything before we begin. My method is designed to help you shift your desire while you’re learning the tools — not before. You start exactly where you are.
Is this like therapy?
No — it’s different. Therapy helps you understand your past. Coaching helps you change your patterns. We work with your thoughts, emotions, nervous system, and habits in real time so you can create sustainable change going forward.
What if I’m not consistent? I always fall off.
That’s the whole point of this program. Most women were never taught how to stay consistent for themselves — only for everyone else. Inside coaching, you’ll learn the skill of consistency: how to show up, how to follow through, and how to become the woman who does what she says she’s going to do.
What if I don’t want to be completely alcohol-free?
You don’t have to be. This is not a rule-based sobriety model. The goal is to make alcohol irrelevant — not forbidden. When you no longer need it for comfort, relief, or escape, your relationship with it becomes effortless and self-led.
How is this different from AA or “quit drinking” programs?
AA focuses on abstinence, labels, and avoiding alcohol. Most mainstream programs rely on willpower or substitution. Feminine Sobriety Coaching does the opposite: no labels, no counting days, no white-knuckling. We rewire the pattern that creates the desire for alcohol so drinking becomes a non-issue.
What if I’ve tried everything and nothing worked?
Perfect — you’re in the right place. Those things didn’t work because they only addressed your behavior, not the root pattern inside your mind and nervous system. My process is holistic, feminine, and sustainable — and it changes the part of you that wants alcohol, not just the part that drinks it.
How long will it take to see results?
Most women feel relief, clarity, and emotional shifts in the first 1–2 weeks. Desire reduction happens steadily as we work with your nervous system and emotional patterns. You’ll notice yourself thinking about alcohol less, needing it less, and feeling more confident.
What if my partner still drinks?
You can be successful even if everyone around you still drinks. In this program, you learn how to manage your emotions, reduce cravings, and stay grounded regardless of what others are doing.
What if I’m in perimenopause or struggling with anxiety?
This coaching is perfect for that. Hormonal shifts, stress, anxiety, and overwhelm are major reasons women get stuck in drinking patterns. You’ll learn tools that support your nervous system, emotional world, and energy — so you can find relief without alcohol.
What if I’m scared to fail… again?
Every woman who works with me has felt this. The difference is: you’re not doing this alone anymore. You’ll have tools, structure, support, and accountability — and you’ll learn consistency in a way you’ve never experienced before.
Do you offer support between sessions?
Yes — and this is one of the biggest reasons this method works. You get high-touch, wrap-around support so you’re never left alone to spiral. You get guidance in the moments you need it, not a week later.
What’s the first step?
Book your 30-Minute Sobriety Clarity Call It’s short, powerful, and designed to help you get clear on what you want
and whether this is the right next step for you.