Holistic Health Coaching
Creating a healthier, more fulfilling life isn’t about adding more rules or routines, or trying to do everything right.
It’s not about starting over every Monday or constantly searching for the next thing that will finally make you feel better.
Coaching gives you space to slow down, get clear, and create meaningful change with personalized support—whether you’re looking for more energy, greater clarity, healthier habits, better relationships, or a deeper connection to God.
Nothing about you is broken.
You don’t need another list of things to fix.
You need an approach that meets you where you are and considers the whole picture—your body, mind, heart, values, relationships, and the life you want to create.
Together, we identify what matters most, understand what’s getting in the way, and focus your energy on the changes that can make the greatest difference.
Simple. Personal. Sustainable.
“Alcohol was something I really wanted to get out of my life. I knew I needed to work with her (Mary) to achieve what I wanted to…Mary’s coaching has improved every aspect of my life and I am so grateful for working with her.” - Amanda
Most people are trying to force change from the outside in.
Sustainable change happens when your inner world starts working with you instead of against you.
I help women develop a fresh perspective on change so wellness stops feeling like another thing to fail at and starts becoming a way of living that actually supports your real life. Guided by your relationship to God.
Together we look at:
habits and behavior patterns, including overdrinking, eating habits, sleep hygiene, and movement motivation
stress and nervous system overload
motivation and emotional resilience
all-or-nothing thinking
daily structure and consistency
meaning, purpose, and personal values & Vision
environment and relationships
This is not about perfection.
It’s about building a life that feels sustainable, connected, and well from the inside out.
Because wellness isn’t just about fixing symptoms.
It’s about creating a life your body, mind, and heart truly love.
Why Staying Consistent Feels Like the One Thing You Can’t Figure Out…
You’re a woman who gets things done.
You know how to find success — that part has always come naturally to you.
You manage people, schedules, kids, homes, and businesses.
You show up, you lead, you follow through.
You’ve built a beautiful life because you know how to be consistent.
But Stress-Free Wellness…
It’s the one thing that’s confusing for a woman who’s capable of so much.
Not because you’re weak.
Not because you lack discipline.
Not because you “have a problem.”
It’s because you’ve learned to earn your worth, rather than receive it…
A pattern that makes looking for relief feel like the fastest way to get joy, calm, or confidence.
Joy is your birthright.
It’s time for more Mary and a little less Martha.
Patterns can be rewired.
Until now, your options have felt limited:
Quit on yourself and deal with the fallout… mostly guilt and shame.
Stay the course and add one more thing to your daily to-do list
Learn to live with feeling depleted and like a half version of yourself
You’re not the problem — your brain’s pattern is.
And no one has ever taught you a simple, sustainable way to change it.
That’s where Devotional Wellness comes in.
It’s a holistic, sustainable approach that helps you shift the pattern — without counting, rigid rules, or information overload.
We use the same principles Christ teaches us. We let him take the burden, and you walk with more ease and grace.
Wellness is A 360° Approach
You can go to the gym every day and still feel disconnected from your body and life.
You can know exactly what to eat
and still find yourself standing in the kitchen at 10 PM, reaching for the cookies.
You can buy the supplements. Listen to the podcasts. Save the routines.
Make the plan with your doctor, trainer, or physical therapist…
…and still struggle to stay consistent.
Not because you are lazy.
Not because you “lack discipline.”
Because real wellness is not built from information alone.
Lifestyle change is not just physical...
The Foundation is Faith.
Right now, discipline feels like deprivation.
But without it, there’s shame.
When it becomes an act of devotion, everything changes.
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“When this mindset shift happened, I knew it would be easy to release alcohol completely from my life”
“I knew changing my relationship to alcohol was on the horizon when I heard Mary talk about how alcohol became irrelevant to her, like it was possible for alcohol to be something neutral that was easy to say no to.
Among the many tools that Mary offered in my time with her, I received the most support from the continual reminder that I am not a victim to my thoughts, and that most often the worst thing that can happen is a painful emotion or a negative thought.
When this mindset shift happened, I knew it would be easy to release alcohol completely from my life, because I am fully willing to feel my feelings, and not let my thoughts and subconscious patterns get the best of me.”
-Nura Rachelle Astrologer, mother, Teacher
The Real Problem Isn’t Your Lack of Willpower — It’s What You’ve Been Taught to Believe
The biggest roadblock to change usually isn’t motivation.
It’s believing you have to “fix yourself” before your life can get better.
This type of devotion isn’t a religion; it’s a relationship between you and god.
You’ve learned that stress, exhaustion, overwhelm, emotional eating, overdrinking, burnout, anxiety, overworking, and constantly pushing through are just part of modern life.
Especially as a woman.
So you keep trying to manage the symptoms while staying functional.
Another routine.
Another supplement.
Another healing modality.
Another attempt to finally “get it together.”
But constantly living disconnected from your body, your truth, your values, and your deeper purpose is not wellness.
And coping patterns don’t disappear just because we judge them or try harder.
What you really want isn’t more discipline.
You want peace.
Clarity.
Energy.
Connection.
Freedom from constantly managing themselves.
That’s not a character flaw.
It’s a pattern.
And patterns can change when we feel safe enough to tell the truth, reconnect to what matters, and create sustainable behavioral change from the inside out.
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“If anyone had told me 6 months ago that I would be alcohol free I would have laughed.”
"Liquor became my source of confidence, pleasure, reward and solace, and everything I did had to include alcohol in order to be fun or even tolerable. The pattern continued for the next 44 years.
Mary’s commentary resonated deeply with my own alcohol experiences and I decided to explore her 5 shifts. I tapped into “the witness” and was surprised how affective a tool it was.
Once I stopped judging myself I was able to more clearly understand the reasons I drank and that the reasons were exacerbated by the very act of drinking. A vicious cycle! My energy and enthusiasm grows daily and I have no feelings of deprivation or loss. I’ve started to exercise, meditate and make plans for an awesome future.
I owe my success to Mary Wagstaff and would recommend her program to women of any age or circumstance.”
- Laura Neal, Property Manager, Mother, Adventurer
Laura is going on 3 years of loving her naturally sober life! Getting ready to hit the road in her retirement adventure.
The Process That Actually Creates Sustainable Change
(Not Another Quick Fix)
This is the process I’ve used in my own life and with hundreds of women to create lasting behavioral change.
Not through shame.
Not through perfection.
Not through white-knuckling.
But through presence, truth, nervous system safety, meaningful accountability, and learning how to reconnect to what actually matters.
Because sustainable wellness isn’t built on punishment or constant self-improvement.
It’s built on self-awareness, devotion, and the creation of habits that support the life you truly want to live.
It’s not traditional wellness coaching.
Traditional health approaches often rely on rigid routines, constant self-optimization, surface-level habits, or the idea of “fix” yourself through more discipline, SMART goals, and actions that require unending willpower.
Devotional Wellness is different.
It’s not about restriction — it’s about reclamation.
Instead of trying to avoid life, you learn how to:
Feel your emotions fully
Regulate your nervous system
Honor your desires without numbing them
Shift your internal state without connection, not checking out
Build emotional safety inside your body
Rewire your brain’s attachment to alcohol
Create calm, clarity, and confidence from within
This is a holistic, compassionate method that makes change meaningful.
When you create peace inside your nervous system, old habits lose their pull — naturally.
No rules.
No labels.
No counting days.
No deprivation.
Just a simple, sustainable way of living that fits who you are.
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"I feel an inner soundness and feeling of being solid in my responses that wasn’t there prior to working with you. True healing”
And I am so grateful to you and the program and the opportunities and shifts of perspective that have opened up for me. I appreciate knowing you are still here for me…
I feel I have solid internal footing, which is an absolute testament to the work I’ve done these last few months with you and the program. True healing. "
-Bonnie Zadeyan, Mother of Four, Entrepreneur, Yoga practitioner
Private coaching with me is not behavior management.
It’s a transformational, feminine, Spirit-based journey back to yourself.
It celebrates your story, your wisdom, your evolution, and god.
Together, we unlock the woman you’ve always known yourself to be — awake, powerful, connected, intuitive, free.
This is for the woman who is over it:
over the mental load
over the guilt
over feeling numb
over bursts of creativity that never fully land
over performing
Over-consuming does not match the woman she is becoming
She’s ready for her next chapter.
She’s ready to make an impact in her home, career, and community.
She’s ready for a deeper relationship with herself and with the Divine.
After coaching hundreds of women — and walking this path myself — I know what actually creates long-term change:
A regulated nervous system.
A clear, simple method.
A supportive relationship.
A deep sense of Devotion and Meaning.
And a woman who is ready.
Your Private Coaching Experience
How Devotional Wellness Coaching Guarantees Results
Most approaches start with what you need to change. I start with what you want your life to feel like.
Because you can know exactly what you’re supposed to do and still not do it.
Eat better. Exercise. Drink less. Sleep more. Stop scrolling. Start meditating. Get back on track.
The problem isn't a lack of information.
Sometimes, you've simply been trying to create a new life without getting clear about why you want it in the first place.
Devotional Wellness Coaching starts somewhere different.
We start with your vision for a well-lived life.
What matters to you? What brings you joy? What are you ready to let go of? What do you want more of?
Then we look at the behaviors, patterns, and ways of coping that are either supporting that vision—or getting in the way.
Your nervous system matters. Your environment matters. Your habits matter.
But so does your heart.
When your choices begin to reflect what you genuinely value, change stops feeling like another thing you have to force.
Here's what we work on together:
1. Get Clear on What You Actually Want
Instead of starting with everything you think you should change, we start with your life.
What would feeling well actually look like for you? What would you have more room for? What are you ready to stop chasing?
Clarity gives your changes somewhere to go.
2. Understand the Patterns Behind Your Behaviors
Your habits aren't random, and they're not a character flaw, it’s based on beliefs you learned along the way to keep you safe.
Together, we get curious about what your behaviors are doing for you, what needs they're meeting, and what might need to change.
This is where lasting change begins.
3. Learn to Work With Your Nervous System
You don't need to become perfectly regulated.
You need to understand what happens inside you when life gets full, stressful, boring, uncomfortable, or overwhelming—and learn new ways to respond.
These are skills you can actually use in real life.
4. Make Room for More Joy
Health isn't only about removing the things that aren't working.
It's about adding in more of what makes life worth living.
Connection. Movement. Creativity. Adventure. Rest. Prayer. Community. Pleasure. Play.
The more your life gives you something to move toward, the less you need to constantly look for something to escape from.
5. Have Someone in Your Corner
You already know a lot about what you “should” be doing.
Coaching gives you somewhere to think out loud, get honest, notice your blind spots, celebrate what's working, and keep moving when life inevitably gets messy.
You don't need another person telling you what to do.
You need someone who can help you see what's true for you.
6. Let Devotion Become the Center
This is where wellness becomes something more.
When caring for yourself isn't about becoming a better, more optimized version of yourself—but about caring for the life and body you've been given—your choices begin to come from a different place.
Wellness becomes an act of devotion.
And that changes everything.
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“Mary helped me look at alcohol deeper than just the facts of am I drinking or not drinking, but how do I feel and what are my goals.”
“It's really about being curious with no judgment. I'm having a drink, so I'm going to have a drink; it's not good or bad, and if I wake up tomorrow with a hangover, I'm not going to feel guilty about it; I'm just going to experience it.
It's about thinking things through and not just having feelings. You gave me the opportunity to think more deeply beyond surface emotions and feelings.
What I really want is to make big moves, and you can't make big moves when you're swimming under a cloud of alcohol.”
- Kaylyn Dawley, Business Strategist, Entrepreneur
What You Get Inside Private Coaching
Private coaching with me is intimate, intentional, and life-changing.
This isn’t about micromanaging your every move — this is about supporting you as you become the calm, clear, confident woman you already know you’re meant to be.
Here’s what you’ll get inside your coaching experience:
1. A Personalized, Feminine Framework
You’ll learn simple, sustainable ways to create healthier habits and feel better in your body, mind, and life.
Your coaching is tailored to your nervous system, your lifestyle, your values, and the woman you’re becoming.
Whether you’re wanting to change your relationship with alcohol, food, stress, improve your health, or simply feel more energized and engaged in your life, we’ll focus on what actually matters to you.
No rigid rules. No deprivation. No trying to become someone you’re not.
2. Weekly 1:1 Sessions That Create Breakthroughs
This is where everything comes together.
Each session helps you clear overwhelm, understand your patterns, and create clarity around the next right step.
You’ll feel grounded, supported, and more like yourself every single week.
3. High-Touch, Wrap-Around Support Between Sessions
You don’t change your relationship with alcohol in one weekly appointment.
You change it with support that wraps around your real life, especially in the moments your brain wants to fall back into old patterns.
You’re not left alone.
You have a steady bridge of support — “in-the-moment” guidance that helps you:
regulate quickly
interrupt emotional spirals
calm your nervous system
navigate tough moments
stay consistent
build confidence with every step
This is the level of support that keeps your momentum alive and your progress sustainable.
4. Tools to Navigate All Areas of Your Life
Alcohol is just one spoke on the wheel of your life.
When the other spokes — your emotional world, nervous system, boundaries, routines, identity, relationships, and self-trust — get stronger…
you stop needing alcohol for support.
You’ll learn tools that help you:
process emotions instead of avoiding them
reduce overwhelm
create structure that feels nourishing
strengthen boundaries
improve your relationships
regulate your nervous system
navigate stress without spiraling
⭐ 5. And Most Importantly: You Learn the Skill of Consistency
(the part most programs never teach you — and the part that guarantees your results)
Most women don’t struggle because they lack discipline.
They struggle because no one taught them how to consistently show up for themselves.
Inside this coaching, you’ll learn:
accountability without shame
emotional responsibility instead of avoidance
how to keep your word to yourself
how to show up even on messy days
how to build trust with your future self
how to get what you came for
how to make every investment a win
Mindset isn’t innate.
Consistency wasn’t modeled.
But when you learn this skill — your transformation becomes inevitable.
This is the part of sobriety coaching no one talks about —
and the exact reason my clients succeed when nothing else has worked.
“My journey to change my relationship with alcohol has restyled my entire life.”
I began the journey only knowing how to be a daily drinker. I felt that at best, I could maybe moderate.
Mary provided me with the fundamental realization that I did not have to settle. That I no longer needed to wander, but could build a more direct purposeful path to follow.
From that moment on, Mary guided me in rethinking what I naively believed was unimaginable for so many years. A life independent of alcohol is not only viable, it is a choice I now have the confidence to make every day.
To have the awareness that the social pull of a worldwide drinking culture is not welcome in my life. And, knowing that Mary is always here for me is priceless. -Paula, Program Client
“Mary's work is life-changing. Before working with Mary, I was tired, depressed and uninspired in life. After Mary, my beliefs have changed.”
I enjoy life and am excited for each day. I truly NEVER thought I would be writing this and not having a drink. Somehow, Mary creates a path for you without "clawing" your way through each day without a drink. This has been the best gift to my family and me.
My Beliefs before Mary:
I can't NOT drink.
I love drinking while making dinner.
I won't have fun at parties without drinking.
I want to drink after work.
“Mary not only helped me wrap my head around thinking differently about alcohol, which I thought was impossible but also life in general.”
Mary stuck by me when I doubted myself, when I stumbled, and all the way through to now where I can honestly say I feel the BEST I have felt in years. Mary not only helped me wrap my head around thinking differently about alcohol, which I thought was impossible but also life in general. The pandemic escalated my workload, my stress, and my drinking. Mary helped me begin to unpack all three, and I will be forever grateful. XO - Nicole, Program Client
My Beliefs After working with Mary:
I have so much energy.
I am so calm.
I love myself and my life.
I can handle anything.
I laugh more without alcohol.
-Ami, Program Client
Working with Mary has been a transformative experience—a true game-changer.
In every conversation with her, I feel completely safe to express myself without shame. Her insightful words not only help me see my challenges from a new perspective, but they also empower me to grow and overcome negative self-talk. The trust and authenticity in our exchanges have made every interaction deeply impactful, showing me the power of honest connection and self-discovery.
- Marianne, Private Coaching Client
Frequently Asked Questions
Is this like therapy?
No — it’s different. Therapy helps you understand your past. Coaching helps you change your patterns. We work with your thoughts, emotions, nervous system, and habits in real time so you can create sustainable change going forward.
What if I’m not consistent? I always fall off.
That’s the whole point of this program. Most women were never taught how to stay consistent for themselves — only for everyone else. Inside coaching, you’ll learn the skill of consistency: how to show up, how to follow through, and how to become the woman who does what she says she’s going to do.
What if I don’t want to be completely alcohol-free?
You don’t have to be. This is not a rule-based sobriety model. The goal is to make alcohol irrelevant — not forbidden. When you no longer need it for comfort, relief, or escape, your relationship with it becomes effortless and self-led.
How is this different from AA or “quit drinking” programs?
AA focuses on abstinence, labels, and avoiding alcohol. Most mainstream programs rely on willpower or substitution. Feminine Sobriety Coaching does the opposite: no labels, no counting days, no white-knuckling. We rewire the pattern that creates the desire for alcohol so drinking becomes a non-issue.
What if I’ve tried everything and nothing worked?
Perfect — you’re in the right place. Those things didn’t work because they only addressed your behavior, not the root pattern inside your mind and nervous system. My process is holistic, feminine, and sustainable — and it changes the part of you that wants alcohol, not just the part that drinks it.
How long will it take to see results?
Most women feel relief, clarity, and emotional shifts in the first 1–2 weeks. Desire reduction happens steadily as we work with your nervous system and emotional patterns. You’ll notice yourself thinking about alcohol less, needing it less, and feeling more confident.
What if my partner still drinks?
You can be successful even if everyone around you still drinks. In this program, you learn how to manage your emotions, reduce cravings, and stay grounded regardless of what others are doing.
What if I’m in perimenopause or struggling with anxiety?
This coaching is perfect for that. Hormonal shifts, stress, anxiety, and overwhelm are major reasons women get stuck in drinking patterns. You’ll learn tools that support your nervous system, emotional world, and energy — so you can find relief without alcohol.
What if I’m scared to fail… again?
Every woman who works with me has felt this. The difference is: you’re not doing this alone anymore. You’ll have tools, structure, support, and accountability — and you’ll learn consistency in a way you’ve never experienced before.
Do you offer support between sessions?
Yes — and this is one of the biggest reasons this method works. You get high-touch, wrap-around support so you’re never left alone to spiral. You get guidance in the moments you need it, not a week later.