In my private coaching, we don’t count streaks—we count circumstances. Because when you measure change by the quality of your life, not the length of your abstinence, you build confidence that lasts.

Alcohol wasn’t the problem. It was the symptom. For many women, the real problem is the mental load, the nervous system on overdrive, or the endless cycle of over-functioning.

What I really want you to know about alcohol is you don’t have to be a sober cheerleader to create a new relationship with alcohol. While I believe life with less alcohol is better—for me—it’s not about labels like “sobriety.” It’s about what you want.

After 20 years of thinking about alcohol and almost 6 years of not drinking, I can tell you this: the biggest stigma around drinking is the one in your head. You didn’t panic when you stopped playing with Barbies; alcohol is no different. It’s just a choice—how you want to spend your time.

How to Set Yourself Up for a Successful Dry January (and Beyond)

Happy Holidays, and Happy Almost New Year!

As we close out another year, it’s a beautiful time to reflect on growth, resilience, and the possibilities that have unfolded in our lives. At my house, we call it "resiliency training." It’s a reminder that growth doesn’t happen without change, and change requires us to let go of the belief that something is missing.

If you’re someone who’s ready to explore what’s possible for your life, Dry January might already be on your mind. Maybe you’ve tried it before, or maybe this is your first time attempting a month alcohol-free. Either way, I want to share some insights to help you approach this year differently—so you can not only succeed but truly thrive.

Why Dry January Fails for Many

Let’s start with the common pitfalls people face when tackling Dry January. For most, the intention is solid: cut out alcohol for a month to reset and kick off the new year feeling fresh. But here’s where things often go wrong:

Rock Bottom Moment Not Required: A New Perspective on Transformation

When someone recently asked me if I had a "rock bottom moment" that led to where I am now, the question caught me off guard. I stumbled over my response, unsure of how to fully explain my journey in that moment. But the question stayed with me. It made me realize something powerful: No, I didn’t have a rock bottom moment. What I had was an ascension moment.

Choosing a Different Path

Did I have moments I wasn’t proud of? Absolutely. But the real turning point for me wasn’t a moment of despair—it was a moment of choice. I decided to start living my life in a new way, connecting with new people, and immersing myself in new places. This shift began with my spirituality. I embarked on a journey of studying the feminine mysteries, exploring the phases of the moon, charting my own cycles, and connecting with teachers who awakened me to the buried power of the feminine archetype.

This wasn’t just about learning; it was a profound moment of connection and ascension. I discovered a missing piece of my spirituality that had been absent all along. The contrast between this newfound empowerment and the life I had been living became so stark that drinking—even in small moments—began to feel like its own version of rock bottom.

Why are we often our own worst critics? It’s an old survival mechanism—telling us that staying the same is safer. But here’s the thing: judgment and criticism don’t lead to lasting change. They only build walls around your authentic self, reinforcing the belief that “you can’t handle it,” which is why you might turn to alcohol again.

Why are we often our own worst critics? It’s an old survival mechanism—telling us that staying the same is safer. But here’s the thing: judgment and criticism don’t lead to lasting change. They only build walls around your authentic self, reinforcing the belief that “you can’t handle it,” which is why you might turn to alcohol again.

🌹The ONLY statistic you need to consider when it comes to alcohol.

Every woman will make a choice about alcohol in her life.

She knows the impact it has.

She was born with wisdom in her blood.

The most important statistic to consider isn’t how much women are drinking—it’s why. Women’s alcohol consumption has risen as independence has grown.

Why is that?

Alcohol is a neurotoxin, and we all know it’s addictive.

But facts alone won’t help you quit. Why? 🤔

Because you’re acting from the energy of what you don’t want.

🌹 Women haven’t always consumed alcohol at today’s rate.

Did they not need it to relax, connect, or have fun?

It wasn’t always sold as empowerment, rebellion, or eroticism.

These questions invite curiosity… read more on my blog HERE.

• Can we live fully as women—doing what we want, when we want—while embracing the innate gifts of the feminine?

• Can we find pride in hosting, mothering, organizing, caregiving, and creating the life we’ve been dreaming of?

🙏🏼 Imagine having luxurious space to prepare a meal, read with your child, or care for your clients—no alteration required.

Why are we often our own worst critics? It’s an old survival mechanism—telling us that staying the same is safer. But here’s the thing: judgment and criticism don’t lead to lasting change. They only build walls around your authentic self, reinforcing the belief that “you can’t handle it,” which is why you might turn to alcohol again.

Why are we often our own worst critics? It’s an old survival mechanism—telling us that staying the same is safer. But here’s the thing: judgment and criticism don’t lead to lasting change. They only build walls around your authentic self, reinforcing the belief that “you can’t handle it,” which is why you might turn to alcohol again.

Why are we often our own worst critics? It’s an old survival mechanism—telling us that staying the same is safer. But here’s the thing: judgment and criticism don’t lead to lasting change. They only build walls around your authentic self, reinforcing the belief that “you can’t handle it,” which is why you might turn to alcohol again.

Why are we often our own worst critics? It’s an old survival mechanism—telling us that staying the same is safer. But here’s the thing: judgment and criticism don’t lead to lasting change. They only build walls around your authentic self, reinforcing the belief that “you can’t handle it,” which is why you might turn to alcohol again.

Why are we often our own worst critics? It’s an old survival mechanism—telling us that staying the same is safer. But here’s the thing: judgment and criticism don’t lead to lasting change. They only build walls around your authentic self, reinforcing the belief that “you can’t handle it,” which is why you might turn to alcohol again.

I remember when I first began exploring my relationship with alcohol. It felt like I was avoiding a big, scary truth I wasn’t ready to face. I’d tell myself, “It’s fine, I’m okay,” while sweeping those uneasy feelings under the rug.

I would search for any evidence that would validate my drinking, even though deep down, it wasn’t what I wanted. If you’re looking to defend alcohol, you’ll always find a way.

You’re not drinking all the time, but it’s all you can think about. It’s not just cravings. It’s the planning, the scheming, the regret, and the constant decision-making. It’s enough to drive anyone to drink.

There was a time when alcohol didn’t occupy this much space in your mind. Why?

Because it wasn’t as conflicting with your values and the life you want for yourself in the future.

But now, alcohol is stopping you from growing—from seeing who you could be on the other side of this little liquid that’s taking up an outsized proportion of your life.

I remember when I would drink just to get my mind to shut up, even when I didn’t really want to.

So my question to you is: Who are you having this conversation with?

It’s just you in there. But you need to create some space between you and your thoughts.

Here are 3 simple steps to shift the conversation and end the alcohol obsession:

Does the idea of going sober feel like a lonely path? You’re not alone, and this journey doesn’t have to be solitary. So many women feel isolated in their struggles with alcohol, but I want to offer a different perspective—what if you could feel celebrated instead of isolated?

The first step is creating a new relationship with yourself. It’s about learning to have your own back.

There’s nothing more upsetting than waking up the next morning not knowing how you got to bed—or realizing you don’t even remember putting your kids to bed.

The shame and guilt alone can lead you to drink again the next day. And the frustrating part? It doesn’t even feel like you’re drinking that much.

You try to drink less, but you still end up with the entire bottle of wine gone. It seems like the more you think about drinking less, the more you end up drinking.

My client Cindy used to tuck herself in most nights before her kids even went to bed.

Exhausted from the day, alcohol pushed her over the edge. There were just those couple of hours in the evening when she felt like she “needed a drink,” even though she spent all day either anticipating it or telling herself, “Not tonight.”

It’s easy to feel like you’ve tried everything to make life better, but what if there’s one thing holding you back from your “happily ever after”? For many of us, alcohol is that thing—keeping us stuck, tired, and out of sync with the life we truly desire.

Here’s the plot twist: that happily ever after, the life you really want, is already happening.

Why Sobriety Isn’t Just About Quitting Drinking

Oct 14

When we talk about sobriety, the first thing that probably comes to mind is stopping drinking. But here’s a little secret: sobriety is about so much more than just putting down the wine glass. It's about rediscovering yourself, reconnecting with your body, and living with intention.